For the past couple of weeks I’ve been snowed under books and articles. My lecturers did that evil thing where they put all the deadlines in one week, so I had no choice but to put my scholarship in full gear. That’s where I’ve been hiding, for those of you who’ve been missing me.
In my time away, I wondered, how do people achieve balance in life?
I don’t know because as far as I’m concerned, there is no such thing.
I learnt this from Carole Mandi and have recently embraced it as my life philosophy.
Ideally, I’d be able to commit equally to my work, academics, family, friends and social life. But at any one point, that is not possible. I work on a priority basis, rather than one of balance.
I ask myself, what really really really needs my attention right now? And then I centre my life around that. All other commitments are put on pause.
Because I’m not trying to be a Jill of all Trades. I’d rather work on a few things excellently, than a lot mediocrely.
I can’t be everything to everyone all the time. Prioritize your life so that you can show up when your ready. On your own terms. Don’t try to keep up with a social life when you have urgent work and academic commitments waiting on you.
As my parents always say, parties and social life will always be there. If you’ve been to one party, you’ve been to them all. Trust me, you’re not missing out on anything.
The beauty about being overwhelmed is that it gives you an opportunity to declutter- you can stop what needs to be stopped. Pause what needs to be paused. And focus on what needs your attention now. This is how I avoid burnout.
It’s not always easy and there are times when you really have no control. But where you can exercise control, take control. My commitments don’t control me, I control my commitments.
When you focus your energy on priorities rather than balance, you can take better care of yourself. People focus too much on their commitments to others but forget their commitment to themselves. Remember you, always.
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