It is Finished

Full (.adj) not lacking or omitting anything; complete Regret typically consists of looking back and feeling a sense of incompleteness. Like there’s something you could have done better in a particular situation. Like an experience ended too quickly. We wish things were different. Maybe longer. Or shorter. Perhaps in a different context. Or at a

Pain Will Visit

This post has been years in the making. Not because I’ve been writing it for years… but because I’ve been learning and storing the lessons away, knowing that I will one day compile them and put them somewhere accessible. For myself. For others too. Looking back at the last few years of my life, seasons

What I’ve Learnt From 3 Years in The Arena

In August this year, it’ll be 3 years since we started The Arena. I thought of waiting until then to write this as an anniversary commemoration post but I’m feeling the urge to write and post it immediately. Working on something you love is difficult. A labour of love soon morphs into something laborious. There was

On Darkness, Demons and (self) Destruction

Marshawn McCarrel, a 23 year old American activist, died last week from self-inflicted gunshot wounds. This is the message he left on his Facebook, “My demons won today. I’m sorry.“ I read those words and felt defeated. I feel defeated because it reminds me of the helplessness I feel watching people close to me suffer

On Things That Don’t Feel Right (And How To Deal With Them)

I’m reflecting on the things in my life that haven’t felt right. I like to think that I’m a (generous) giver of chances. A patient friend. The kind of person who will stick things out. Because for me, if I love and care for you, I’m here for keeps. Jobs, friendship(s), relationship(s). There are things,

What 2015 Taught Me

We’re about to close 2015. Here’s what I’ve learnt over the year, in no particular order: Friendship – 2015 has taught me that friendship is sometimes seasonal. It’s a heart-warming aspiration to want your nearest and dearest to stay close to you forever. But this year I’ve learnt that the seasonality of friendship is not an