On Things That Don’t Feel Right (And How To Deal With Them)

I’m reflecting on the things in my life that haven’t felt right.

I like to think that I’m a (generous) giver of chances. A patient friend. The kind of person who will stick things out. Because for me, if I love and care for you, I’m here for keeps.

Jobs, friendship(s), relationship(s).

There are things, activities and people that fit seamlessly into our lives. No questions asked. And there are things, activities and people that every bone in our body repel. Stay away.

But it’s not always discernible. The pendulum oscillates- it feels uneasy and then, it’s really good.

This isn’t so bad!

Okay, just a few more weeks and then I’m done.

Is it that serious?

How often do we talk ourselves into staying in places and with people who sap the life out of our souls?

And by the time you realise, you’re already waist deep, trying to pull yourself out. Trying so desperately to stay afloat.

I guess there’s something in all of us that is drawn to the glistening charm of potential. We want things and people that will come into our lives and fill the missing spaces. But in that headspace, we get it wrong. We get trapped into setting expectations for people who have no desire to fit into those spaces. We see in them only what we want for ourselves.

And then we take it personally. Stop catching feelings. 

So when something doesn’t fit quite right in your life, how long before it’s time to let go? I don’t know.

All I can say is that from experience, and as with many other things in life, there is no silver bullet. I would tell you to remember why you started. Why were you there in the first place? But I know that the reasons for going in are not always the reasons for staying. So, how do you reconcile the two?

Use your intuition. Watch your body language. Pray. Seek counsel. Let time run its course. Tap into experience.

If it’s not complicated, don’t overcomplicate it.

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The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit” (Psalm 34:18) | Edinburgh, Scotland

There’s a resolve in each one us. Find it. Draw strength from it. Because it can’t be found anywhere else.

Pull through.


© Tessy Maritim


  • Jean

    January 29, 2016 at 2:34 pm Reply

    True. We should always trust our gut because most times we know what we want, deep down.

    A well written piece!

  • Caitlin Tonkin

    February 7, 2016 at 8:07 pm Reply

    “I know that the reasons for going in are not always the reasons for staying…” This jumped out at me… I didn’t realise until I read it how much I needed to hear it. Thank you!

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