When Your Mind Says No

I’ve been wanting to scale up my video content for about a year and a half now. The desire was there but the ideas were not. So I just lingered over it, hoping that something would emerge with time.

That time is now. I’m proud to have figured out a style and vision that’s given me motivation to create more videos. Earlier in the year, I was making a big effort to convince myself why this was all a bad idea. I found all the reasons I was looking for- it’s going to take up my time, the ideas are boring, nobody will be interested in what I have to say etc.

For every idea you want to bring to life, there are things working against you. So, if you want to hold on to them and use them as excuses, they will be of service. I didn’t realise it but I’ve been sabotaging myself and feel really bad about it.

Now I’m focused on the creation process and execution! There are times where I’ve started filming and I’ve had to stop because my mind is working overtime to say no to my ideas. But we are overcoming. I’m making this happen. I’m trusting myself. I’m rooting for me!

Wish me luck and pray for me!

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Love to you and thanks for supporting me.

T

© Tessy Maritim

Thank You, January

Life moves quickly. So swiftly, that it’s easy to miss the things, people and events that make life worthwhile. I’ve decided to create a new section of my blog, to share, appreciate and reflect on each month.

I’m grateful for:

  • New Beginnings– Sometimes you need the convenience of a New Year to push you to reset the areas in your life that need a little watering and tender care. That was the start of 2016 for me. I shared more in this post.
  • Colouring In Between The Lines–  Literally. I bought a colouring book and it’s brought me so much joy. For anyone who enjoys creative meticulousness with the same enthusiasm as I do, I’d encourage you to purchase a colouring book. It’s not only so fun but excellent for your mental health. Indulge! Here’s the link to the one I have.
  • A-Team of Life– We finally unveiled our new A-Team! If you’ve been keeping up with The Arena, you know we’ve been going through recruitment for our new A-Team. The process has been so exciting and I can’t express how hopeful I am for the future. The Arena is a labour of love but I’ve learnt some difficult lessons along the way. Never underestimate the power of a small group of committed people. Quality over quantity. Make no mistake- business is business.
  • #Goals– One of my new year’s resolutions came into fruition and it was not as great as I hoped it would be. I’m planning on riding it out as much as I (mentally and emotionally) can and then I’ll see what to do. Goals aren’t always as magical as you imagine them to be. And that’s okay. Not everything needs to feel magical, right? Fairytales are for books.

 

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“Coming together is a beginning; Keeping together is progress; Working together is success” – Henry Ford | Nairobi, Kenya

 

Thank you, January.

T

© Tessy Maritim

Vision 2015

Happy 2015! I trust you are all well and hope you had a lovely Christmas break. I must say, I’m still on holiday! For the past couple of years, my December has been marked by endless, stifling revision. This one has been different. As I am now part of the workforce, I’ve had the opportunity to take some time off and just relax. I’ve visited family and friends, ran errands for my parents and unapologetically overslept. It’s been delightful.

Now that 2015 is in full focus, many of us are planning for the upcoming months and setting goals. It’s great to feel a sense of direction for the year. But it can also be daunting if you’re not quite sure what you want to do or where you want to be. I think being uncertain about your purpose is healthy and normal. Uncertainty gives you the opportunity to reflect and re-evaluate what’s truly important to you.

Some years ago while I was wandering about on the Internet, I came across an eye-opening set of questions and thoughts that helped me brainstorm and reflect on what my purpose is. They may not give you the answers you’re looking for but they are definitely a good place to start.

p.s. I have no recollection of which blog I borrowed this from! So I must clarify that the following content is NOT my work.


 

 Lets start with the basics:

For these exercises, grab a sheet of paper, make yourself a cup of tea and go to a quiet, comfortable space.

PURPOSE 

To help find your purpose, answer these questions:

  1. What are you most passionate about?
  2. What activities do you find the most joy in?
  3. What is the one thing you feel you couldn’t live without doing?
  4. Who are your inspirations, and why?
  5. What skills are people constantly complimenting you on?
  6. What goals in your life are the most meaningful?
  7. What do you want to be remembered for?
  8. What comes exceptionally easy for you?

Once you have answered these questions, try to find the ‘common denominators’. Do you see any patterns/similarities? Is there a recurring theme? These patterns/similarities are an indicator of your purpose in life. If you are still having issues; try to focus your quest on uncovering your rawnatural abilities, things that come innate to you.
GOALS

Set your goals using the S.M.A.R.T method:

S
: Stands for specific; you must be as specific as possible when writing down your list of goals. Focus on why you want to do it, how you want to do it, and when you want to do it.

M: Stands for measurable; you need to find a way to keep track of your goals so that you are able to make any necessary changes to your plans along the way. There needs to be “mini-goals” built in your main goal so that you are able to note milestones and progress.

A: Stands for attainable; make sure the goal set is truly important to you; whenever a goal is important to you, you remain motivated, and you are able to think of workarounds to bypass potential problems.

R: Stands for realistic; make sure your goals are within reach. However don’t confuse setting realistic goals with lowering your expectations. Setting realistic goals helps fuel the momentum and keep the excitement going as you move through your list. Make sure you have all the tools/skills/resources available to achieve your goals, as you are more likely to work hard to achieve them.

T: Stands for time based; make sure to set specific dates for completion of your goals, if specific time frames aren’t set, you may feel like you can start at any time.

 

BE-DO-HAVE

Once you have figured out your purpose, and written down your goals; it’s time to practice the BE – DO – HAVE Paradigm. Are you are a Human Doing or a Human Being?

Simply put, you need to BE in harmony first. That is your state of being. Acting in love manifests an abundance of blessings.

Once you’ve mastered the art of “being” you need to actually DO some work prior to HAVING the true fulfillment you desire!


 

You can take it further than this and create a vision board which will help you envision your goals and purpose. I shared how vision boards have helped me in this previous post.

This exercise helped me clarify some of my plans and I hope you find it equally helpful.

 

 

T

 

© Tessy Maritim