I’m someone who loves, appreciates and understands the complexities of life. I know that it’s not always black and white. It’s frustrating that sometimes we are required to be simplistic, normative, basic in the way that we think, in the way that we live, in the way that we love. There’s not enough space for our colours and nuances- the things that make us special.
I wish there was more room to be complex. I wish it was possible to survive and thrive with the complexity- without it being diluted.
But sometimes for functionality, for practicality, we need definitive answers to the difficult questions- Do you want to leave this job or not? Do you want to love this person or not?
It’s not always possible to live with the complexity. Sometimes you have to strip it away, forget it, ignore it and just get on with life. Life requires us to be decisive sometimes. If we take too long to make a decision, life will make it for us.
And I much prefer the agency and autonomy of making the decision myself- as difficult as it may be.
There’s no toolkit for these things- we make a way as we go along. And hopefully others can learn and be inspired by it.
I know that it helps to seek help; to ask questions- furnish yourself with information. Information can increase the depth of complexity. And, it can also distil your situation.
As I write this, I’m thinking of the times I was too afraid to ask. Not asking because I would rather not have known the truth. Not asking because I would rather not have known the lie.
You should also make a habit out of observation- watching people, things, life as they continue. You might see what you’ve been missing.
“So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded” (Hebrews 10:35) | Nairobi, Kenya
What I know is- complexity notwithstanding, we will always find what we need to find.
© Tessy Maritim