We’re on our way to church. My mom is driving and we’re about to cross Waiyaki Way. She’s concentrating because it’s a busy highway. There are people behind us hooting- she’s moving too slow and they want her to cross quickly. My mom looks across the car to me and says;
“Mummy, when you start driving, don’t let anyone rush you. Take your time.”
She looks back at the highway. Someone behind us is still hooting.
My mom is right. Take your time.
We live life with a tremendous sense of urgency. Like everything will be taken away from us if we slow down. What are you running to? What are you running away from?
My mom says that it’s important to slow down and take your time when making decisions. Give yourself time to internalise information and familiarise yourself with context. How does this feel? What is this doing for you?
Sit with it. Meditate on it. Let it sink in.
Don’t rush yourself. Don’t let anyone rush you. If they’re threatening you, let them know that they must wait- or, they can leave.
Part of living life on your terms is knowing how to express your needs with those close to you. Often, they don’t mean harm. They just want what they want. But if it’s pressuring you, if it’s hurting you- make it clear to them. Ask them to give you time. Ask them to give you space.
Give yourself time,
to move on
to start your career
to finish school
Don’t be afraid to pause. Pause so that you can engage, dissect and understand- what is this really doing for me?!
“Haraka haraka, haina baraka” (Swahili proverb) | Geneva, Switzerland
Let no-one cheat you- this life is yours. Make what you wish out of it.
I’m learning this everyday.
© Tessy Maritim